Do You Have Biz Rizz?
Okay so by now, you’ll have heard of the word, ‘rizz’ and know that it means charm, appealing, charRIZZmatic.
It was actually named word of the year by the Oxford University Press back in 2023, so if you haven’t heard of it, time to get down with the kids!
It’s said Timothee Chalamet (not without rizz himself) said that Tom Holland had the ultimate rizz because he was able to attract his multi-talented girlfriend Zendaya.
Anyway, I was scrolling Tiktok a few weeks ago and what do I find but lots of posts about ‘Biz Rizz’ and how to get it.
So what is it?
"Biz Rizz" is a term that refers to someone who has charm, charisma, and confidence in a business or professional context.
Biz is short for business and Rizz is short for charisma.
So someone with BIZ RIZZ would
Be able to work a room
Persuade and influence with ease
Make you feel like you have their full attention and so on...
It might be the person who seems to...
Charm their way through their career
Know the right people
Engage people effectively in all situations to make them trust and like them
They'd appear to be super-connected, in the know
And in the right place at the right time
And you know when all things are equal, people like to do business with those who they like, know and trust.
So, is this an innate ability, are you just born with it?
Some people are, I think. Just natural movers and shakers.
But I also think it can be learned.
How you ask?
There are many ways but I’m going to focus the one I think it most important.
1) Be Present and Focused on Listening
Fundamentally, I think it’s a point that Dale Carnegie makes in his best-selling classic book, “How to Win Friends & Influence People”.
In it he quotes Henry Ford:
“If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”
For this to happen, we have to be present and focused on listening to what the other person is saying, what they are not saying and where they are coming from.
You’ve heard that expression, ‘they made me feel like I was the only person in the room’ well that takes intentional focus and presence.
2) Listen To Understand
Listen to understand rather than waiting for the other person to finish so you can have your say.
Steven Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People says:
‘seek first to understand, then to be understood’.
Try it, it’s powerful stuff!
It creates a climate of trust and connection.
3) Empathetic listening & Generative Listening
And Otto Sharmer in his book, ‘Theory U’ says that there are 4 types of listening.
The third is Empathetic listening, where you can put yourself in another person’s shoes and understand their perspective.
But the fourth level is Generative Listening, where you are connecting to the core ideas of the conversation and being fully focused on helping to bring the best possible future into being with ego and other barriers dropped.
Wow! Imagine that.
If you felt that someone was listening so deeply to what you were saying, meaning and feeling?
I think you’d be charmed or ‘biz rizzed’.
I really recommend you check out the work of all three books I’ve mentioned.
And in terms of how I can help...
I’ve just released an online course called: How to Network Like a Ninja
to help you with that essential biz rizz skill: fearless networking!
It’s a practical, informative, tip-tastic which will help no end when it comes to:
Working a room
Starting conversations and
Generally levelling up your Biz Rizz.
So here’s to you all. Let’s get out there and biz rizz with ease!
Take care
Tracy
